Dear Harlan: My roommate’s boyfriend saw me in my underwear. I didn’t realize he was in the room and I pretty much flashed him. How embarrassed should I be? I’m not sure how to explain this to my roommate. -Exposed
Dear Exposed: Embarrassed? I’d be pissed! You should be fuming! Your room should be a safe place to walk around in your underwear. You should feel totally violated. You need to know when a man is in your room. Not only do you have to worry about giving him a peep show, there’s safety concerns. Your roommate should never leave you alone in a room with a man. Don’t make it about her boyfriend seeing you in your underwear — make it about feeling totally violated and wanting to keep your room a safe place.