Dear Harlan: I broke up with my boyfriend of two years a year ago. I’ve been having a hard time getting over him. Lately, I’ve been hooking up with three different guys (no sex, just making out). I’m having a hard time deciding which one to date. I’m afraid that if I pick one, I’ll have second thoughts. I like them all. Any advice? – Hooking Up
Dear Hooking Up: Three men at ALL times? How convenient for you. Whenever you feel sad, someone is there to turn you on so you can turn it off. This isn’t about picking the best man – it’s about you covering up the pain of the past. Want to figure out who is the best man? Stop hooking up with ALL of them. Experience what it’s like to be single, uncomfortable and vulnerable. Face the feelings you’re running from. Acknowledge them. Work through them. Learn from them. If you can’t be single and face them, make an appointment with a counselor or therapist.