Dear Harlan, I’m in my early 20s and have had an issue wearing condoms. For some reason, I physically can’t have sex with a condom without going limp from it. How do I bring that up to a girl without sounding like I’m just trying to avoid using a condom? – Limp or Bareback
Dear Limp, You’re way more worried about telling a girl you can’t wear a condom than telling a doctor you go limp when wearing one. Wear a condom. It’s not just about birth control. Sexually transmitted infections are running wild among college-age people. According to the CDC, roughly one in five people have herpes or genital warts. Then you’ve got 50,000 new cases of HIV each year – a quarter of these infections are among youth ages 13-24. If you don’t have a doctor, get one. Your condom collapse might be medical, emotional or psychological. The condom might be a trigger that causes you to go limp, but the solution could be simple. You need a doctor to talk to about this. The answer might be as easy as finding new erotic, exciting and titillating ways to incorporate condoms into sex.